Since stepping back from royal duties in 2020 and relocating to California, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have made it clear: their top priority is creating a secure, nurturing, and intentional environment for their two children, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet. In doing so, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have consciously distanced themselves from the traditional royal circle and embraced what they call a “chosen family” in Montecito — a community that reflects their values, lifestyle, and aspirations for their young children.

A Fresh Start in Montecito

After a turbulent exit from royal life, which included explosive interviews and strained relationships with senior members of the royal family, Harry and Meghan settled in the affluent coastal town of Montecito, California. There, they purchased a sprawling estate — complete with lush gardens, chicken coops, and ample privacy — to raise their growing family away from the glare of the British tabloids and the rigid expectations of palace life.

“They wanted to give their kids a different kind of upbringing — more freedom, more love, and less pressure,” a source close to the couple shared. “California offers them that.”

The ‘Chosen Family’

With much of Harry’s relationship with the royal family strained, especially following the release of his memoir Spare, the couple has surrounded themselves with a tight-knit circle of supportive, like-minded friends — their “chosen family.” This group includes celebrities, business leaders, wellness advocates, and fellow parents who have helped form a community rooted in positivity and mutual respect.

Among them are well-known figures like Oprah Winfrey and Tyler Perry — both of whom played pivotal roles during Harry and Meghan’s transition out of royal life. Perry even offered his Los Angeles home as a safe haven when the couple first left the UK.

Also included in their inner circle are friends from Meghan’s past, such as Serena Williams and fashion designer Misha Nonoo, as well as new local connections from the Montecito community. According to reports, the couple regularly hosts small gatherings and playdates for Archie and Lilibet with children of their trusted friends.

A Different Kind of Royal Childhood

Archie, now almost 5, and Lilibet, turning 3 in June, are growing up worlds apart from the traditional royal upbringing of their father. Instead of palace corridors, formal protocols, and public scrutiny, the Sussex children are said to enjoy nature walks, animal care, creative play, and storytelling. Meghan, a known advocate for early childhood development, is reportedly very hands-on as a mother, emphasizing emotional intelligence, curiosity, and inclusivity.

“They want their kids to grow up knowing they are loved for who they are — not for the titles they carry,” the source added.

Despite no longer being working royals, Archie and Lilibet were officially granted their prince and princess titles in 2023. However, Harry and Meghan are said to rarely use them in everyday life.

Moving On With Purpose

Harry and Meghan continue to build their lives around philanthropy, creative ventures through Archewell Productions, and personal healing. Their decision to step away from royal life has not been without criticism, but they remain steadfast in creating a life that reflects their values — one where their children are protected, empowered, and surrounded by authenticity.

“They’ve let go of the crown but gained a sense of freedom and identity they never had before,” said a royal commentator. “Their children are the biggest beneficiaries of that.”

The Royal Rift Remains

While speculation continues about whether reconciliation with the royal family is possible, the Sussexes seem focused on the present and the people who stand by them. Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet may not be growing up inside palace walls, but they are undeniably surrounded by love — a love their parents chose, nurtured, and protected.